darling chocolatiers, i thought you might enjoy a random convo with one my besties on waiting, dating, and jesus. maybe in that order lol. consider this lighthearted fun as my attempt to compensate for the rants. (note: names have been removed to protect the innocent)
me: i’ve been thinking about the line between waiting, keeping eyes open, and pursuing
her: yea..thats such a hard balance
because i’ve been thinking
should i be keeping my options open
and what does that mean?
and how do you know when the one is there
hahaha so many thoughts
me: and what does it mean to keep options open?
and does waiting mean not looking?
or does waiting mean being faithful to God/purity/etc while trying/dating?
her: right. i’m confused. so i do nothing
sometimes i think in all circumstances (not just relationships) we equate waiting with not working
like, i’m waiting on God for $$ so i’m not going to do any extra work because that is a lack of faith
or, i’m waiting on God for healing, so i’m not taking extra meds
or, i’m waiting God for a good GPA, so I don’t need tutoring…
her: right. i think depending on the topic we get the wrong messages
especially when it comes to dating and that whole thing
like should i be dating? or do i stay absolutely single until the “one” finds me
her: and then should i date because i’m scared of sharing myself with anyone who isn’t the “one”
maybe thats my issue
me: but doesn’t thatll come down to boundaries?
i mean, that’s what i’m learning right now
me: sure, i can be talking to someone, but what i share and the boundaries i have are up to me
her: its so strange. maybe i do need to date so i can figure it out eh?
that’s what i think i’m deciding
her: jeeez the life of a christian girl is so hard
i’ve been thinking lately that one date does not a boyfriend make
meaning, if dude wants to pay for a meal, and you like him enough for that, then do it
me: he can work his way up to BF status
her new status message – one date does not a boyfriend make! 1:53 PM
me: he doesn’t need to be perfect husband material before you go out – that’s the point of dating
her: see that right there is what i need to get over
i think i’m like a man sometimes in that respect
like it may not be exterior stuff
her: but i am looking for a prototype
i compare everyman to basically jesus
me: i think i’m realizing that the prototype wasn’t born a prototype
and even Jesus took some 30 odd years before he stepped into ministry
her: you’re right it probably took ________ at least 25 years to get his act together
and we’re still not perfect until heaven
me: i’ll work with potential + willingness to work + actual work any day
…and this is why i love chatting with my friends…